One thing I have struggled with since having a baby is finding some “me” time. Our weekday schedule is tight. I am up at 5 am and we leave between 6:30 and 7:00 am; H and I get home around 4:30 pm and she goes to bed between 6:30 and 7:00 pm. The time in between is used for playing, bath, nursing (twice), and eating solids, plus our bedtime routine, which includes reading a few books. Once H is in bed I clean up and get everything (her stuff and mine) ready for the next day. By the time I make dinner and sit down to relax it’s often 8:00 pm – and I’m typically in bed around 9:00 these days. Weekends are used for cleaning, cooking, running errands, and catching up on stuff from the week.
This doesn’t leave a lot of time for my personal hobbies and activities (except cooking, which I do genuinely enjoy). J is good about taking time for himself, and will use nap time to read and play video games (whereas I use it for things like folding laundry). I need to be better about this. And that starts now.
My priority as a mom is to my daughter, but in order to be the best mommy I can be, I need to first be the best ME I can be.
J has offered, many times, to take on more chores and/or baby watching to help me relax a bit more. I’m going to take him up on this.
Hehe, J isn’t like that, I just thought it was funny.
Here’s the plan: I’ve started running again, and for now will do that two weeknights and one weekend day. J will put H to bed while I head to the gym on weeknights, and during nice weather I will take H with me on the weekends. When it’s warmed I’ll run with H right after work (instead of the gym).
One Thursday each month the local yoga studio offers restorative yoga, basically a really relaxing class for de-stressing. I will attend that with my friend Katie. I may also attend a weekend class now and then.
I will read during naps. J will help fold laundry, do dishes, whatever as needed, or occupy H while I do so.
There are so many things I am excited to share with H, and sometimes the “me” time won’t be solo. For me, me time is more about relaxing and doing what I love than being by myself. Running with H is awesome (even though I’ve only done it a few times do far), and I have been looking forward to sharing that with her. In the warmer weather we will go hiking and ride bikes (I’m going to get one of those tow behind things).
I want to be a mommy. I want to spend time with my daughter and share my passions, while teaching her to develop her own.
I think this is a good plan to fit my interests into a tight schedule. It’s about balancing responsibilities with fun and relaxation, about being myself and being H’s mommy. And it’s about enjoying my hectic life, imperfections and all.
How do you find balance?